Was what Trump said really that offensive?

If your name is Melania Trump, yes. Absolutely.

By now, we've all probably heard Trump's controversial Billy Bush tape--the one where he has what he presumes is a private conversation among men ... you know, the bro-code. But were the things he said really that bad?

If so, a large percentage of men are just as guilty as him, Republican or Democrat.

No, no, I know ... you would never say half the things he did, right?

Not that you would admit to your wife or girlfriend, thus the original statement. If your MelaniaTrump, you'd have every right to be upset. I mean, he flat out admitted to trying to have sex with a married woman, but failed.

I can't tell you how many times I've sat in bars with other men, no women around to hinder our speech and listened to talk that reflected the kinds of things that trump said. As men, we puff our chests and talk about our successes and failures with women. It's what we do. It's what we try to do if we're single and what we sometimes wish we could still do if we're married or in a committed relationship. I don't condone anyone screwing around on their wives or girlfriends if they have them. That's a no no.

But when I listened to the Billy Bush tape, everything Trump said made sense to me. It fit. Him saying those things aloud didn't make him a gentlemen, but let's be honest here. If we're going to speak the truth, let's speak the truth.

Women don't typically fall for the gentleman type. Period.

Yeah, yeah, I've heard the argument before. Ask a single woman what her idea of the perfect man is and she'll list of a host of logical things like: Someone who makes me laugh, has a nice smile and likes the same things I do. He opens doors for me, compliments me on my wardrobe and takes me to nice places.

But take a look at that girl's dating history and it will often tell a different story. She'll often complain that there are 'No good men out there,' but the reason she says that is because she's dated nothing but bad-boys--guys who really only care about one thing and after she gives it, or after they get tired of getting it, they move on to someone else. At that point, he becomes a jerk--an a-hole, but while she was dating him, he was the next 'Mr. Right.'

This same girl who claims to want a gentleman most likely has five to ten conversations per day with 'nice guys' and yet, doesn't go out with any of them. If she did, she would end the date with a yawn and make an excuse to go home early. I don't necessarily blame her, I suppose. Perfect gentleman are boring. What fun is it to sit there for an hour or two and talk about where he works, where she works, her family and friend, or his--people you don't know or care about yet. It's not fun. It's gets really boring really fast and if that's all you talk about for an hour, by the end of the date, you're both ready to go home and the date is classified a failure by both parties.

But if the guy makes moves on the girl on occasion, even if she playfully rejects them, it automatically makes the date more interesting, doesn't it? I mean, isn't that what dating is about? Isn't half the fun of going on a date to see if it could lead to something more? Don't get me wrong, I'm not suggesting that women should put out on the first date. Prolonging the pre-sex foreplay for several dates, and possibly more than that, makes it even more interesting and gives the potential couple more time to get to know each other before things go to the next level.

So, back to trump. Most of us aren't lucky enough to live the kind of lifestyle that he and many other celebrities enjoy. When I said that everything he talked about made sense, I think it did. Here are some of the comments he made:

"I just start kissing them. I don't even wait ... and when you're a star, they let you do it.  You can grab them by the pussy.  You can do anything." (Followed by Billy Bush laughing).

And then as the female reporter walks up, he starts talking about how great her legs are.

My point here, is that what he said was very true. If you're famous, your chances of succeeding with women goes up substantially and you most likely can get away with saying or doing a hell of a lot more with women than you can if you're just an average guy. How many husband's out there have heard their wives make innuendos about sexy male movie stars? How many of you have went to concerts with superstar rock-bands and seen women throwing their panties onto the stage? I know I have. I went to a Metallica concert once and by the end of the concert, the front of the stage was littered with bras and panties from women in the audience. No doubt, if any of those women had the chance to have sex with any member of the band, they would have. Without ever having to be taken on a single date.

And this was demonstrated on the tape by the very reporter that was to interview Donald. On their way to the interview, the reporter suggested that she wouldn't choose one over the other, but would 'Take both.'

And to be honest, I think she would have. If Billy and the Donald had tried to take the reporter back to the bus, she may have went with them, simply because they are both celebrities.

Did Trump's status a celebrity go to his head? Sure. I think it did. But I think it often does with celebrities, male or female. Why do you think so many celebrities have such a difficult time in marriage. I think it's because they get so used to being idolized by the opposite sex, that they feel unfulfilled by their spouses, who learn to see them as normal, flawed human beings, just like the rest of us. They are used to being able to control others and get whatever they want, whenever they want and when their spouse doesn't give into that? Well, trouble ensues.

This isn't a political blog, so I'm not going to get into the politics of it. This blog is more about the attitude of our society in general toward men, and I would suggest that Donald's attitude toward women is reflective of how most men feel, whether we are bold enough to say it aloud or not.